"....I'd prefer to live in a country which is able to make friends rather than enemies..."
We'll, thats a nice thought Hippy. Although if we have a look at the sorts of countries in modern times the US has had as enemies I have to say Im glad the US has competent engineers and a thriving weapons industry. Nazi Germany, Communist Russia, Imperialist Japan, "IslamoFacist" Iran et al, Iraq ruled by a tyrant.
Could any tolerant, liberal,thinking, peace loving country "make friends" with these sorts of entities? Or like the Germans did to Brittain under Chamberlain would they use such a friendship as a interlude to prepare more fully for aggressive war.
Should the Americans say I'll be friends with you Adolf, and those Jews,Gypsies and Slavs you're gassing, well thats OK becasue our friendship is big enough to get over that. Saddam, you want to controll most of the worlds oil supply, thats OK we'll pay exorbitant prices for oil or freeze in the dark because afterall we're friends and friends make sacrifices for each other.
In my view the weapons industry is a legitimate one and without it our way of life wouldn't exist. Any young person who cuts their electronic engineering teeth on picaxe and then goes onto to work work in weapons R&D for a democratic country does a good thing in my view.